HOW TO BE A POSITIVE MUM (EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T FEEL LIKE IT).

SCREAMING, TANTRUMS, FUSSY EATING HABITS....

These are all things we experience as a Mum am I right?.....and there are day's were we feel low and uninspired true? Well I have learned that these are normal experiences as a Mum. Becoming a Mum open up a whole new world of emotions And I'm sure I can say this for every Mummy out there, we want to be a positive light in our children's life. But our precious little ones can test us cant they! and we can feel like we are in a slump. Well Id like to share with you some strategies I use  to stay a positive light for my daughter EVEN WHEN WE DON'T FEEL .LIKE IT.... I guess we think of Motherhood as all warm and fuzzy (which it is !!) , but I realize now when we stop thinking that and take on all the things, all the emotions, life gets so much easier!!

RELEASE THE INNER CRITIC...
DON'T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF! You are doing an amazing job. The one thing you should never do is compare yourself to another parent. you do what feels right for you and your child and do what is working for you,  Playing the comparison game can be dangerous, it can lead to depression and low self esteem. Admit when you are feeling anxious or stressed. If you need help don't be afraid to ask for it. Find comfort in your support network. Reach out for guidance. I am so blessed too have a wonderful support network which I am so grateful for.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF SO THAT YOUR BEST IS POSSIBLE. 
Now this is something that all Mum's are guilty of (yes I see you with your hand up!) we get so devoted to our roll as a Mum that along thew way we forget about us.We are so fixated on doing our best that we forget to take care of us. And if we aren't feeling taken care of and dig deep into that self love, we don't have our strength and emotional capacity to do our best for our family. And I want to always want to be my best possible for my family. Now It's dang hard! to find the time sometimes but I make it  happen. Sometimes when Trevor and our shining star are gone to bed, I will put my feet up and listen to a podcast with a face mask on. Or I might just relax and read a little. Do what feels good and emotionally comforting to you... promise me you will do it?.

BREATHE..GO WITH THE FLOW. 
I love structure and a plan..I'm hopeless when it comes to things changing in the structure of being familiar. But in a shout out to myself I am getting better. It's been a roller coaster of a ride learning how to 'Go with the flow'. But you have to expect the unexpected as a Mum. Every day is different with our children. I now wake every day and remind myself to go with the flow. When something comes up I might not have planned for, just roll with it in the moment. Do what you have to do. Sometimes we may not get something in particular done, but hey THERE IS ALWAYS TOMORROW!!

I really hope I have helped in some way to your journey as a positive Mum. I myself am only new to this role but am excited to share with you my experiences on this wonderful journey. Do you have any experiences you can share with us? we would love to hear from you. Take care of you...Together we can be a positive light in our children's life. Sounds pretty cool!!

Kristi Xx