READ HERE TO BECOME A BETTER WRITER.. AND FIND PEACE.

Calling all my writer friends. I'm so passionate about my writing. Writing changed my life in so many wonderful ways. Been such an introvert I kept so much to myself, now being both an introvert and extrovert writing has steered me into a whole new way I see myself. I faced a lot of my fears to stop holding myself back from chasing my dream. I still have fear, A LOT. But that fear is my friend now and keeps me focused on what the bigger picture is. If you love writing I'm here to help ya my friend with ways that have helped me continue to hone the craft of writing.

GET CLEAR BEFORE YOU SIT DOWN AND WRITE.
This is really helpful tip. Be clear , ask yourself questions about why you are writing and what you want to write about. I find writing down what the message is I want to put forward and who i it going out to. This is a great foundation for putting together the topic and outcome of what you are writing.

TEAR DOWN THE PIECES.
When you are clear on what you are writing, tear down the story into strips of the most important points of value. When you do this you are making sure you tell all of your story and not leaving out anything critical to your expressions. You are zooming in on your feelings and looking deep within the surface.

ASK YOURSELF WHAT WOULD MY IDOL WRITE..
I do this all the time!. Sometimes when I'm sitting there with wanting to write something but can't put into the write words, I ask myself how would my inspiration write this?  I will go back and look at ways they have expressed themselves in their writing. But never copy!! The point is to observe how they express their message out into the world.

WRITE FROM YOUR HAPPY PLACE. 
To get the full benefits of how writing can help you emotionally and physically. Always write from a place where you feel happy. Never write from a place of anger or frustration. If what you are writing brings some sadness for you, writing from a place of being happy will bring more clarity over your objective. Coming from the heart is the purist and authentic way to write.

END ON A STRONG NOTE.
This is a must! finishing strong will help put into perspective your own reasons for wriring what you have written. A time to heal if that is what you need. Look at it like a chapter in a book, one door closing and another door is open.

Writing has so many incredible facets. Have you tried writing? Give it a go and tell me what you think I would love to hear from you. Click the link below and grab my free guide to how I found joy again after my journey with infertility. Until next time

Kristi Xx

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ANXIETY PROBLEM ? THIS ONE THING WILL HELP FIX IT..

Anxiety..what is it really?

It is an intense, excessive and persistent worry or fear about everyday situations. A fast heart rate, sweaty palms and rapid breathing may occur when feeling anxiety. Yes I have experienced this and I have found ONE thing that really helped me stay in control with my feelings. MEDITATION.  Now I know some of you may laugh at this, but hear me out.

Up until about four years ago, I was a walking nightmare! Everything would make me anxious and stressed. I would get nervous about having to do anything that involved a lot of people (Different story now) But I still feel like this sometimes and then my amazing husband reminds me of what I have to do. MEDITATE.  Meditation is the quieting and stillness of the mind. The oneness we have with our breath. Let'a face it life is pretty crazy for this generation, fast paced and non stop yeah?  Enter the beauty of meditation...

Anybody can meditate, there is no right or wrong way or time frame for which to do. As long as you can feel your breath and your chest rise and fall with each breath, you are meditating my friend. Now I want to walk you through a meditation process. How does that sound? Let's begin..
- Find a quiet comfortable place you can sit and relax.
- Let your body feel like jelly, nice and loose then close your eyes and begin to feel your breath.
- really feel each inhale and exhale of the breath
-  With each breath out feel the tension, anxiety and stress just melt away. Imagine it flowing straight out of your body.
- Anything that pops into your mind see it as clouds rolling by, acknowledge them and let them go like clouds floating by.

Now is this simple, no of course not if you have never done it before or have trouble slowing your mind down. But every time you do it it becomes easier and feels so dang good TRUST ME. I learned to have so much more control over my mind. Just to clear it up some people think you need to meditate for an hour or more every day. No no no, you do what you can. Even if it is just 5 minutes to close your eyes and just breathe, that's great! and if you choose you can gradually do more as you get more comfortable sitting with yourself and building a strong bond with your mind and body.

So are you going to give it a try? Send me an Email and let me know. If you have any questions I would love to hear form you and I would love to help. Send me an Email and don't forget to subscribe free to receive weekly inspiration straight from me to you (link below)

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HOW INFERTILITY FEELS.

Infertility, does the pain ever go away,. No it never completely goes away, infertility alters the course of your life. But if you don't do what you can to find a way to feel joy again, before you realize you miss out on all the happy times that come into your life.  I'm digging deep and sharing what my infertility journey was like for me.

I can remember so clearly when I found out I was never going to be able to experience the joy of carrying a baby and giving birth. I had an idea of what was coming, having Turner Syndrome it was a classic feature. But I wanted to find out from the Doctors. So off I went and had all the tests and it was confirmed, the chances of me ever falling pregnant were very low. I remember walking out that day feeling crushed and brokenhearted. I never really knew anyone that had faced this kind of Infertility so i didn't know how common it was. It really felt isolating and scary.

INFERTILITY FELT LIKE BEING OUT OF CONTROL. 
Being a Mummy was a huge part of my dream since I was really young. I loved kids and knew I would make a great Mum. Having a family with my soul mate was part of my life plan. But as I found this can change so very quickly with no control. I am such a plan follower, I feel centered when I plan for what is coming next and prepare for it. But this was something I had no control over and could not change. It was set in stone.

Even though I had done research and knew what coming, I was still not prepared when the storm actually hit. I was told by the doctor that IVF was an option to try but the success rate was not very good at all. Even knowing this and talking with my Husband I was determined to give it a try. But again It was out of my control, after many cycles we were still unsuccessful. We knew it was time to close that chapter and try to move on. This was an emotional roller coaster, I couldn't think of not keep trying but my body felt so exhausted after everything.

INFERTILITY AND THE SENSE OF HOPELESSNESS AND NOONE UNDERSGTANDS WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.
This feeling is so overwhelming, why me? Why won't my body do this one thing my Husband and I want so badly. I wanted so much to give this to him. Know that feeling too? The constant sense of hopelessness and worthless which lead to depression and the feeling of constant ANGER, and nobody understands. But this wasn't true. so many other women go through the same heartbreaking grieving process as I did. I was not alone.

THE FEELING THAT EVERYONE AROUND ME SEAMED TO BE GETTING PREGNANT. 
Looking back now this was not true, but it sure felt like it my mind. That knawing feeling feeling being on Facebook seeing birth photos of new born babies. Even though we were struggling with Infertility I felt a sense of happiness. To me this was important as it was accepting that ot wasn't anyone's fault of my struggle and they shouldn't be punished with my feeling of anger. they deserved to be happy. I took this as a healing process for me, a chance to feel joy again. A chance to release the dark cloud above.

So know my friend that you are not alone, and there is no rule book when it comes to our feelings and emotions. I send you the biggest hug from me to you anmd hope I can help your journey be more bearable. Grab my free guide to my journey and how I found joy again, share with friends who might be going through the same thing. :Let's help each other.

Kristi Xx

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