FRIENDSHIPS... A STRONG NETWORK OF ENCOURAGEMENT

FRIENDSHIPS..

Are you making the right sort of friendships? Here Is a little thought for you today.

This is something I have really created so much awareness around. Embodying myself in friendships that lift me up, encourage me and will stand the test of time. The friendship networks we build will also have an impact on how successful we will be. Having friends that are part of your journey and stand by you will give you the confidence to keep striving for your goals and bring your dream to a reality.

Self care is something we tend to neglect a lot, can you relate? But hear me when I say this is a very important part of our self care rituals. Having that coffee with friends to catch up and talk. This can be a perfect way to tap into how we are really feeling. And having the support together with family there to help us. Truthfully, these strong support networks become like family which is a beautiful thing.

SOME BENEFITS OF HEALTHY FRIENDSHIPS. 
1- Improve your mood
2- help you reach your goals.
3- Reduce stress and depression.
4- Support through tough times.
5-  Boost your self worth.

There are also things to be aware of when choosing friends, Make sure that they have an interest in your life, how you feel and what you say. Make sure they listen to you with out trying to change the way you feel. And always remember it's a two way street. Focus on how it makes you feel. do you feel comfortable and good after talking to that friend?

To have better relationships make sure you are a better friend yourself. Show kindness, compassion and understanding towards others and you will see a strong network start to form in your life.

FOUR THINGS I'VE LEARNED AS A ENTREPRENEUR.

Well if you had asked me 3 years ago if this is what I wanted to do, I would have probably laughed!.

It's funny how for some of us it takes so long to find that something we are good at and love to do. That something that can make a difference. I guess better late than never right? But there are three things that I have learned starting my journey as a entrepreneur. I'd love to share them with you, here we go.....

SELF CARE
This one thing is so very important if you are constantly creating behind a screen. I find I have to allow my brain time everyday to disconnect and just STOP for a while. Getting up and going for a walk, making a coffee and getting some fresh air.  Our poor brains can become so overloaded that we have to give it time to release and catch a breath. Self awareness is the key listening to your body when it says to take a break.

GUT INSTINCT.
I truly rely on this now. I was never one to follow what my gut was trying to tell me. But Now I have learnt that it's my secret weapon to trust the most. We all at some point sort out advice from others, continuing research but it's what we follow through with that advice is the important thing. Always trust your instinct, if something isn't right your gut instinct will tell you

HAVING A CLEAR MISSION,  PURPOSE, VISION OR WHY.
I have found that everything as an Entrepreneur comes back to your big WHY. WHY do you want to do this.  Why do you want to help others? How do you want to show up in this world and who do you want to serve. Just keep revisiting this when things get tough and your buried in the grindstone and want to quit this will help reinforce your mission statement again.

RECOGNIZING MINDSET BLOCKS.
It's time to take a close look at any mind blocks that might be stopping you from being successful. I know that some of the most successful Entrepreneurs have the innate ability  to recognize roadblocks and successfully push past them to be more powerful and positive.

I'm in the early stages of my journey with a way to go and I have no fancy qualifications. Just a whole lot of life experiences that I want to share with the world to help other women move forward in their life and find success. I'm ready to take on opportunities that may come my way in the new year ahead with no fear just a passion to succeed and make a difference. 

DEAR KRISTI..WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF YOU REALLY DID MAKE IT.

To the girl with big dreams...
What would happen if you really did make it? If you pushed through all the doubt and fears. If you just followed your heart shared your story and inspired other women all around the world to live their best life and go and get their dreams...how would it feel and how would it change your life.

Don't spend so much time in the "what if" stage, just focus on the here and now and projecting everything you can into one step at a time. Crushing one goal at a time. Not looking too deeply into the months ahead. Remember every goal you crush is another turning point to where and who you want to be. So just enjoy the ride. take a breath.

That feeling of accomplishment and satisfaction of all the hard work I put in is one that will be so special, trusting and believing in myself that I could and would do it. This is what I want to teach other women all around the world, just as I have taught myself self trust and self belief. The essence of where it all begins. This will be the foundation of what makes my success happen. But to also be aware of depression and anxiety give yourself time to adapt to the new demands you might be putting on yourself.

It would mean I become closer to the person I want to become. Playing small does not serve the world. I am depriving the world of what I have to offer, my teachings through my story. The realization that I am responsible for what will happen next in my life is both frighting and very exciting. I'm always looking for a better way to do things, a way to up my game. So I ask myself can this be a way to move closer to living my passion? Yes! making a better version of you is the most significant way to keep moving forward to your goals. A way to carve out the life you love.

Will I get too comfortable on one level and be afraid of the emotional journey when I up level. I hope not I want to keep soaring up as high as I can go, with no limits placed on myself. Just encouraging me to keep bettering the person I'm becoming. But I'm not going to fret, I've done it hard before. If things get rough I'll find my stride again.If I never try to take great opportunities and let my dreams become realities then the world  won't see my full potential and benefit from all that I have achieved.  And it will make it hard to up level myself and continue to grow and evolve into the best version of me.

Happiness...doing something that you love and lights you up. That feeling of Adrenalin and excitement when you wake up every morning. Isn't that what we all want out of this life? But something very important I will remember is not to loose me. Stay true to myself and who I am. Showing kindness and compassion far and wide. Keeping the smile I love to have on my face always, no matter what life may bring. A smile can really do so much to bring light to my day when things seem uncertain or gloomy.

Would I loose the real me? I won;t let this happen. I will keep focused and grounded in tune with the real me. I know success can also change you as a person, Make you loose sight of your core values and beliefs. But I promise myself that I will always stay true to what I believe in and true to the person I worked so hard to become. I will use any success that I achieve to make a difference in women's lives for the better. I want to make women feel confident in their capabilities to find their own success and live a life they love of abundance and happiness.



\So enjoy it, You are onto something really meaningful and impactful not only in your life but the lives of others. Your confidence is booming.
LET IT HAPPEN....

Kristi Xx

THIRTEEN YEARS DEEP IN THE MARRIAGE..TO SAY I LOVE YOU

I feel like the luckiest women in the world...And needed to write this today and praise this wonderful man I get to call my husband.

I know that's sappy and so cliche...but oh so true. I am married to my soul mate. 13 years making memories, lovers quarrels, having a mortgage, loving up all our fur babies, infertility struggles, so many health  issues, many fishing adventures, nights cuddling falling asleep and so much more. WHOA!! what a journey. But I could have never done this journey without him...

It's so scary how much time fly's. I really feel like if I blink my eyes we'll be 80 sitting in our chairs reminiscing (god willing we're both still here!) of the good ol' day's. Like cooking dinner together. Snuggling on the weekends with a good movie, exploring different places together. Not wanting to spend much time apart.

The most precious thing about our marriage is that we have grown into who we are today together. When I really look back at the person I was, I had no idea who I was or what I even wanted out of life. But being together has opened my eyes to things I never knew about myself. Finding strengths I never knew I had. So we really have brought the best out of each other. Life looks a little different now than the beginning. I work from home, and I'm chasing my dreams and step by step creating a life I love.

Challenges....this word has played a very important key role in our marriage. We've had plenty of them!! one after the other and still going strong!! But you know what...it has made us so strong and ready for anything. I am so proud of us both for what we have accomplished not only as a couple but as individuals as well.

You know I still wake up every day and just look at you. I look at you and thank god that you cam into my life. I memorize your smile, laugh, and every wrinkle etched on your face. I love how we go to bed the same time almost every night. You male my coffee every morning and I make yours on the weekends. I really love how clean and tidy you are and don't think twice about helping me around the house. And I especially love how you love our fur babies. Your gentle kind nature melts my heart.

The last couple of years have been tough. Me with my health and heart issues, and you being diagnosed with an Auto Immune disease. But then the light just shone through so bright with our little shining star joining our family. After everything it could have pulled us apart, but I knew it wouldn't. We don't like doing things like the "Norm". And that's why life with you is like one huge adventure that never stops!!

You continue to lift me up and show me I can do anything. And I continue to lift you up to try new things and believe in you. The wedding vows we said we are still living every single day, and no we are not perfect. But we show each other the highest respect and compassion. And that is real love.

I love you babe, I will continue to be by your side, cherish you, laugh and cry forever more. Buckle up tight because the adventure is about to get even better....

MY TOP 5 SECRETS TO FINDING YOUR STRENGTHS...

What are your strengths?
We all are given strengths which help make us into the person we are today and project our uniqueness out into the world. But do we ever shine a light on our strengths and use them to help others and our own personal development? I think we sometimes don't really understand the part they play in our lives and help form our success...Here are my top five secrets to finding your strengths..

THE KEY IS TOO LET SOMEONE ELSE DO IT FOR YOU..
Have you ever really taken notice and accepted complements? WELL PLEASE DO..Listening to what others are observing about you is the perfect way to recognizing your true strengths and using them to their full potential. It can give you an insight into what people are honestly thinking and if you have more work to do to hone that skill.

WHAT ARE MY STRENGTHS?
This is a vital part of finding your strengths. And there are some really easy and effective ways to do this. One I want to share with you is don't over arch when thinking about your skills or add a sliver lining to the skills that have made you successful in life so far. Take time to think about it and put into perspective. There might be things that you are really good and excel at....but they don't drive you and are not your passion. write a list of all that that skill requires of you. Maybe you have been overthinking it? But don't take it for granted, there are so many factors that go into having a skill. Our potential does not end with that one skill.

READ EVERY COMMENT AND NOTE..
Most of us all have social media right? Well it's the perfect place to gather information about what you strengths really are. Engage by taking a look back at what people were saying. Go back and read it all and gather the information you need to observe what other people are saying your strengths are. It is after all a very personal thing finding your strengths, and what better way to do it than with honesty and authenticity.

WHAT ARE MY SKILLS? 
Now this is a very important part of finding your strengths. Knowing what lights you up about that skill or..what doesn't. Now I want you not to just look at your job, but look at what you have done for others or yourself and see which one has made you feel the happiest and most alive inside. This my friend is as very important skill and a true strength. Not all skills make us feel this way. I'VE BEEN THERE.

LISTEN TO YOUR GUT FEELING..
Trust your instincts, these feelings are the weapon you should always pay attention too. If you gut is telling you something feels right..then it usually is. If there is something telling you no this feels off and not right listen to it!! its guiding you into the direction that you need to go. Take a close look at your gut feelings and look at the bigger picture. Our own intuition is the thing we all doubt in our self. But give your self some grace, you are smart and intelligent.

I am giving you permission to be proud of your strengths and how they define the person you are and still becoming. Let your strengths shine that through for the whole world to see and be inspired by. And don't forget to keep working on them. This world really needs the strength and inspiration that only you have.

Kristi Xx

WHAT I'M MOST AFRAID TO TELL YOU.

I am so grateful to have you here on this journey with me. I've been thinking a lot about what I'm most afraid to tell you. I've shared a lot of me with you all, and now I want to share with you a part of me that is normally kept pretty quiet. I have worked really hard with this but the bad negative monster still shows up once in a while. So I'm going to be completely vulnerable in hope that sharing this will help you live a more confident and enriched life. The thing I'm most afraid to share is that I'm NOT GOOD ENOUGH to live my dream....

Yep it's true! Do you feel like this? I have all the confidence that I can and will do it. But the negative thoughts still pop up and act ass a roadblock and I start questioning myself. I let that fear paralyze the action I need to take to make things happen. And then I tend to doubt myself and play the self doubt game. But I know that I have to quickly turn it around by the simple action of visualizing myself unafraid, and start moving towards my fear and facing it directly and head on. No questions asked, fear, doubt and all.

I think this time of year I always become caught in the self reflection motion.
Where am I going?
How am I changing?
What am I doing?
Where have I been ?
These thoughts roll around in my head at the coming up of a brand new year. But the thoughts mostly that surface are fear of rejection, vulnerability and fear of being judged not good enough to do my passion. Honestly when I started this blogging thing it was just a little hobby. The first months hardly anyone read what I had written. But something inside of me knew that I had to keep going, I had to do this. I could feel myself becoming very passionate about what I had started. And I knew this was making me happy in a way I had never been happy with myself before.

So then comes all the negative thoughts swirling around like a washing machine in my mind..
Am I good enough?
Will people read my work?
Will I be judged?
Will I offend others?
I was so caught up in these that I totally forgot my WHY. I wanted to make a difference and help other women find their best life and live their dreams through sharing my own experiences. I was so afraid that I was afraid of sharing this with you. How crazy is that right?

SO MUCH FEAR, SO LITTLE TIME. It began to get exhausting! And I though what is pon the other side of that fear. YES FREEDOM. You know we always have a choice. We can run the other way and see fear as the limitation to keep us where we are OR we can run towards it with bravery and courage pushing through to the other side. We can use fear as a very important tool to get us to where we want to be. A reminder of what doesn't serve us for the better.

I'm not entirely sure how I'll feel on the other side of sharing this. I guess only time will tell. But for now I'm armed and ready to run with my running shoes and wings. And not to mention a great big smile...

Kristi Xx

SHARING GRATITUDE..

Challenge time....

Have you ever woke up in the mornings when your like ugh here we go again..and stopped yourself and asked OK what am I grateful for today? Well I never used to UNTIL NOW. This is something I want you to join me in. I want you to share one thing your grateful for today. Go and grab that journal, diary or even a dang piece of paper and share what your grateful for today. And keep it going today ,tomorrow and the day after that and every day. Let's see the change we can make in our everyday. YOU READY....

I've decided one of my new years resolutions is to keep a gratitude journal.  It is proven that when you show and share gratitude it will help us live a more happy life. My plan is to everyday share my gratitude for my friends, family, COFFEE, health and my life. But I don't want to just put pen to paper. I want to physically say THANK YOU to all the people who make my life a whole lot better and happier.

What happens when we share this gratitude that we journal or write about? It is proven that it helps us live a more fulfilled , happy and successful life. And it is important in strengthening our relationships. It is a strong foundation for long lasting relationships that will affect our life in the most positive and inspiring ways. Relationships that will encourage and lift us up to our highest potential.

So how can we get into the habit of showing gratitude in real life. At the beginning of every week write notes who you have to say thank you this week. In that morning or afternoon coffee break send that text of thanks to that friend, or write a thank you note to send to them. It will probably feel strange taking your gratitude from your journal or paper and bringing it to life, but with practice you will really start to see the benefits.

And of course sharing gratitude is a SELF CARE GOAL. Once you put this into practice you'll see how good you feel about yourself. How much you really start liking and appreciating you. So are you going to start today? Comment below and tell me if  your in. Send me an Email if you have any questions. Let's make life a whole lot happier... And let our kindness and compassion show our true beautiful self.

Kristi Xx

THESE FIVE THINGS WILL DETERMINE IF YOU ARE SUCCESSFUL OR NOT.

OK so it's time to get down to the good stuff. Digging into what is going to help you!! determine if you will be successful or not. Being successful doesn't happen overnight. It takes time, patience and profound strategies to DETERMINE IF YOU WILL BE SUCCESSFUL OR NOT. It's dang hard work and commitment. I shed that scarcity mindset a few years ago now. I approach everything with a feeling of abundance. But you know It doesn't matter what tools and map I give you , there are certain things that come deep from inside of you that you already posses which will determine if you are successful.

Lets take a look at these 5 innate factors that will take you on the path and lead you to that AMAZING dream in your heart. And if you are doing exactly what your meant to be doing these things will come naturally believe me. Maybe not at once, and they may become harder as your success comes closer. Now check in with your self. Am I in this for real? All outside factors aside you will be successful.

CONFIDENCE AND INTUITION. 
I'm going to ask you right of the bat..to sshow up and be confident in every sense and feeling of the word. So dang confident that you can look inside you when the world is deflating you. Think to yourself "I got this"...not an easy task is it.

Think about it, we live in a world of comparison prone. You can actually see the polished and pristine end product on those little Instagram squares right? Then we look at our own debarkle  and think "What the heck am I doing" as our own work in progress is nowhere where you want it to be.

This will happen over time. You will strengthen over time. You will learn not to think of your inspiration or mentor, but on YOU and YOUR big hearted DREAMS AND GOALS. So just put your head down, don't compare just CREATE. Always remember there is only one you and nobody does it quite like you. And if you find that your turning away form the tasks that have to be done. Ask yourself why are you doing this? Why is this my dream ? above everything else.

DISCIPLINE AND CONSISTENCY.
OK let me ask you, can you set a goal? and can you stick to it? I want you to think about all the promises you made to yourself back at the beginning. What did you start out to do. What will you do that shows your community it can depend on you. When I look back at my own life and what had made me successful is consistently creating and proving to myself that I can keep promises I mad to myself and others. I mean how many times have you set these amazing goals and never followed through. Yep I have. And now I'm more disciplined and acknowledge that.

Now let's set a challenge. For the next 7 day's set your goals, write down what you will do to move closer to this dream of yours. If half way through you find your wandering, not digging it. Maybe these particular goals weren't for you, and you need to rethink what you want. But life does get in the way, we know this to be true. Maybe look at other ways to help you keep on track with a little help. I'm not saying forget your dream, look at ways that will bring you closer even if life gets in the way. I've learnt that if it's meant to be and you want it bad enough..YOU WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN.

STEP INTO YOUR ONENESS.
Well now that we have covered the whole game of comparing our selves, do you really know what makes you unique and and a whole lot of different form everyone else? Can you point out beyond a shadow of a doubt what makes you YOU.

One if the most important ingredients in determining your success is you own abiity to step into and own your oneness. This comes down to owning your own unique talents and the big WHY your doing what your doing. This...is something you should be asking yourself ALL THE TIME. Go on go and write it down.

Another important ingredient is the ability to be able to speak your oneness. This will help so much in the confidence struggle and help you think twice about that comparison game we were talking abut earlier. I found that when I knew my own WOW factor this helped me focus more on my goal and look past what others where doing.

This might not come right away, it might take a little work. But it will help you notice your own uniqueness and what makes you stand out,

THE MINDSET
I decided a few years ago that I was done being "quiet" and small. I wanted to play big which was always my dream. What about you? I've entered into everything I do with possibility not doubt.

Let me ask another question, do you like to play the poor me game or do you see others success as a possibility of what id achievable for you? Do you trust the universe is there every day for you or out to get you? Are you making things you want in life happen or just waiting for then to happen? Mindset is not all peaches and cream. It's the ability to conquer roadblocks and face them head on. Don't wait for perfection. Imperfection will help ou get to the finish line. Moving forward is moving forward right?

The abundance mindset is the belief that there is more than enough to go around. And it will help you attract joy, happiness and success in a more natural way.

PUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE.
Putting yourself out there can come in different ways. Showing up every day with family and friends. peeling back the curtain on what is real for you. Showing vulnerability and compassion. Now this can be difficult I know, but when you do you will see the shift of success move in your direction. The choice of what you share is of course always up to you. But open yourself up a little and let people in. Do this in one step at a time.

 Can you share confidently and clearly your hopes and dreams ?

Kristi Xx

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL OUT OF ALIGNMENT

FEELING OUT OF ALIGNMENT ...what does it feel like? It;s when we feel all negative emotions like fear, resentment,worry and anger. Sometimes we may not even realize we are out of alignment. Now I'm more aware of my emotions and what to do to bring myself back. If your feeling out of alignment with all these emotions rolled into a huge stress ball. Then this is for you.

If you are spiritually aligned then you know that your dreams are within your reach and you know how to get there. But sometimes we loose sight of that and need to remind our self of what really makes us who we are and cultivate a little mind.body and soul check in. To get back in alignment we need to release that negative energy and make way for positive vibes to shine through. I put my hand up to this. I have a tendency to let the negative emotions tale over and steel my positive beliefs that I know I have and believe.

So what can you do to align yourself again? here is my checklist of practices you ready...
- meditate every day.
- I love to read and learn as often as I can.
- Spend quality time outside every day.
- I try to add more plant based food to my diet.
- Move it
- Smile
- Breathe
- Switch your thoughts.
- Have gratitude
When I put these into practice in my daily life I can fully reach my potential and nail my goals I want to achieve that day.

Bit there is something I want you to remember, it's OK when you feel out of alignment. Don't go putting yourself down. We all have days when we feel not so peppy, stuck and just feeling off!. Then your out of alignment.And this can also be an opportunity to see who or what contributed to us feeling like this. Was it worth giving our power away temporarily? Have you ever had one of those days where everything is going really good, and then something happens to change your mood and frustrate you. This means your most likely out of alignment. So get out there, move, breathe, switch your thoughts, have gratitude and SMILE!. I know you can do this.

So the natural state of energetic alignment is a good place of feeling. It doesn't need to necessarily be tied to a person or thing. It's a whole lot more powerful when it comes from the inside. When we feel good that is the exact feeling we are putting out into the world. Lets all try and feel like this, and stand up and help our self when we're not. What do you say. Wanna give it a try?

Kristi Xx

HOW TO STOP COMPARISON FATIGUE..

COMPARISON FATIGUE..  I mean let's be honest. This is something we all fall prey to at some point right? And it's not even intentional, it's our minds succumbing to the "I'm not good enough" whirlwind. But let me put a stop to that RIGHT NOW.. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH.  And what you are doing is enough. I want you to remember that the world needs YOUR unique gifts that only you have to give.

WHY DO WE COMPARE OURSELVES TO OTHERS?
When we compare ourselves to others, what we are really doing is allowing others to tap in and drive our behaviors. This type of comparison is known between you and someone else. And other times it can be related to body image, wishing you were taller or a different body shape. But a lot of the time it's something someone else is really good at and capable of doing. Wishing we could do it just as well. But the best way to turn this around is use comparison as a positive force and squash all that NEGATIVE TALK. Be happy for others and let them motivate you to be a better version of YOU.

In the negative emotional game of self comparison the one thing I have realized is to stop yourself for always comparing yourself to someone else is focus more on yourself. Stop yourself when your mind is overthinking of the way you "think" you should be and turn to showing yourself some dam love. Praise yourself for who you are. A strong capable women of leaving her own mark in this world for others to see and be inspired by. And don't forget to nurture your own self esteem and confidence, practice every day working on what makes you feel confident and strong.

I used to spend so much time comparing myself to others, thinking that was how I need to be. Until I started to become more one with myself. I did this by learning from my mistakes and not expecting everything to go my way. It's OK if something doesn't go the way I wanted it too. Just learn form it and see how you can improve it and try again. Two things I focus on every day is living life to the fullest and being respectful and considerate. This my friend is all part of being more one with myself.

So next time you find yourself comparing yourself to others. STOP and believe that you are enough just as you are. And what you have to offer this world is needed and wanted. Remember after all there is only one you and your special gift is needed so let it shine to help and inspire others. That is the best feeling of all.

Kristi Xx

THE MORNING GRIND..

GOOD MORNING! The morning grind..you with me. Mornings can be a a absolute discontentment. You feel like that sometimes? But you wanna know something, it doesn't want to be. But it is up to us to make the change and turn it around. Is it easy, NOT ALL ALL. But with putting daily practices into place we can change it and wake up every day feeling ready to accomplish our goals. I'm going to let you in  on my daily practices and thoughts for you to try and see what happens. Sound good? Let's do it.

WAKE WITH A POSITIVE AFFIRMATION. 
This is a must! I Wake up every morning and say something positive about the day, WHAT YOU WILL ACHIEVE. By doing this you are holding yourself accountable and giving yourself some love... You deserve it! Never forget that.  When I have a good foundation for the day my motivation and confidence feel alive and on fire! which is a good thing right? Positive affirmations reinforce my mindset to a healthy and productive place that will serve me better.

THE MORNING CUPPA..
For me this is sacred time. Time to just enjoy the fresh start to a day with my cuppa, take a deep breath and and start the day with  a clear mind. Being a busy Mum the day's are long and and well BUSY. So this time I craft out every morning gives me a chance to gather our thoughts and just relax. it's so important to start the day calm and relaxed. There are times when life is so stressful and there is so much happening at once. It can be dang overwhelming. Allow this time for yourself before the daily grind starts. Your mind and body will thank you for it. Trust me on this one...

GET SOME FRESH AIR.
This is a part of my morning that I look forward to. Being a Muma I'm up early before the sun. So when the sun rises I like to go outside and just breath in some fresh air. That time of morning is so new and exciting. I actually feel excited about achieving my goals that day. Working towards my dream. It only takes just a couple of minutes to stand outside and just smell the fresh air.

STRETCH THE BODY..
I take this time every morning to just stand and stretch.Raising my hands in the air and stretch from side to side . Another one is making circles to stretch the neck warming the muscles and the mind ready for the day. A lot of our tension is stored in our neck. Doing this exercise twice a day helps keep stress and tension art bay. We all feel stress and tension in our life were only humans right? '

So if your looking for ways to start the MORNING GRIND right. Try my morning practices and I would love to hear from you how you went. I know they will help you too. We are in charge of our own happiness, we do have a choice. Always chose what will make you feel happy and excited to wake up every day.

Kristi Xx

THE EVERYTHING IS FIGUREOUTABLE EXPERIENCE..

MARIE FORLEO...Have you heard of her. If you haven't be prepared to be blown away. Her latest #1 selling New York Times Best selling Book EVERYTHING IS FIGUREOUTABLE is dynamite and the most life changing book of the year. Marie is truly changing lives around the world. She is crazy funny, pragmatic, compassionate and dedicated to enriching the lives of other women. Let's take a closer look...

What is EVERYTHING IS FIGUREOUTABLE you ask? It is a formula of a belief that will make you unstoppable!. This book will retrain your brain to think more positively and creatively in the face of setbacks. Life is full of setbacks right? Bur when we can refocus our way of thinking and saying to yourself "OK what can I do about this" In turn helping you face your fears, fulfill your dreams and find a better way forward. Showing that their are solutions my friend and you can figure it out!!

There have been so many times in my life when I've been succumbed to setbacks. It didn't matter where I turned, ANOTHER ROAD BLOCK. Enter Marie Forleo and this amazing book. With implementing the daily practice that literally only takes 5 minutes if that, I began to see my thought pattern change and a shift in energy began to emerge. I started to feel stronger and believed in this mantra without any doubts. It's practical and actionable discipline. Plain and simple.

We learn at at very young age that we aren't given a manual at birth. But if you struggle with problem solving or making your dreams and goals happen, then you need to get this book! Marie's Formula is an easily accessible and very powerful formula to change the way we think and move through life. It really is the one belief that will change everything. It gave me the courage to act in spite of my fears. 

Living in the shadows of our fears can be so isolating and just dang draining. But this book will guide you step by step to face that fear and turn it around so you can live a successful and happy life with the tools to FIGURE OUT ANYTHING.  One of the biggest takeaways I got from the book was to eliminate my excuses. I was terrible at this, I had an excuse for everything I was afraid of but wanted to do so badly. Marie will show you just how to deal with this. Wouldn't that be nice to not fall prey to all pour excuses we have for our selves. I sure as heck know it would be. You agree?

Now I don't want to give any more away, you truly need to get this book. Marie is one of the most inspirational women. She writes exactly how she lives, with so much enthusiasm and a dedicated believer in finding the solution. I am continuing to put this formula into practice EVERY DAY. So are you struggling with your fears or finding solutions? GO GET THE BOOK! You will not regret it. If you have already read it, tell me about your experience. I would love to hear about it and share with you.

Kristi Xx

MY BUCKET LIST OF PLACES TO SEE..

Hawaii, Italy, Scotland, Las Angeles. These are just a few of my Bucket list places I want to travel too with my family. Do you get that feeling of excitement and overwhelm when thinking about this...I DO! But not only do I want to go overseas, I want to see some of the most beautiful places right here in our back yard AUSTRALIA.  And now I want to share with you some of those places and their special meaning to me. I think we all have places we would love to see that have some special; meaning to us. Are you ready to go on a Deluxe holiday with me...LET'S GO! 

GAIA RETREAT AND SPA.
Gaia hold a special place on my heart. It was co founded by my childhood idol Olivia Newton-John. This is truly tranquility and healing at it's best. Situated in the breathtaking Hinterland of Byron Bay, which is famously known as The Healing Heartland of Australia. This retreat is the place to go for spiritual and physical healing, the place where YOU COME FIRST. They have such a wide range of packages tailored to suit, you can chose a range of specialized holistic spa treatment to suit your needs. Definitely my tick of approval as top of the list.

BLUE MOUNTAINS.
I have seen so many beautiful photos of the rugged and dramatic scenery. The wide open air space and picturesque colors have drawn me in to add this to my bucket list. With also the most amazing accommodation choices. I put Blue Mountains on my Bucket list because of the sense of  calm and natural beauty. I guess my vision of a perfect holiday is getting rest and relaxation, and experiencing peace and quiet. It was really an easy decision to add Blue Mountains to my bucket list.

HAWAII.
What can I say, I'm a BEACH GIRL. I love the sand and the ocean, the smell of the fresh air and the sound of the waves rolling in. The island of MAUI is on my bucket list to stay at The Kutcher Condo located in Kihei owned by Drew and Jenna Kutcher. Jenna is an amazing entrepreneur and incredible source of inspiration to women. This tranquil space is perfect for a quiet family getaway to make everlasting memories. Maui, Kihei is on the top of my bucket list.

LAS ANGELES.
I am a country girl, but oh I do love the bright lights and movement of the city. LA has been on my bucket list since I was about 13 years old! The definite places are Hollywood, the Beaches without a doubt and last but no least Beverly Hills. I really want to experience the culture of living in a place like that. Ever since I was a little girls I've dreamed about seeing what the Hollywood life is like in LA.  The GLITZ AND GLAMOUR... So LA was a certain YES on my bucket list.

Well there you have it. My bucket list of places to see. I cant wait to tick them off one by one. How about you, do you have a bucket list? I would love to hear some of the places on your bucket list comment below and share your bucket list. Let's go on that deluxe holiday together.

Kristi Xx

A GOAL I AM WORKING TOWARDS IS RELEASING MORE OF MY AUTHENTIC SELF.

Our Authentic self. The real you! This is something I encourage all women to do. This is where the true greatness lies, and how we become remarkable in life and success. I work so hard to show every strength of my authentic self and leave an inspirational footprint on the hearts of other women. Because being your authentic self is who you are at your deepest core.

As I've gotten older, I've noticed more and more that we tend to try and be more like the people that inspire us, instead of learning from them and letting our true authenticity shine through. These are 5 powerful ways to become your best self:
1 Try new thing's! you can't let yourself become complacent.
2 Pursue your dreams.
3 Focus on self care.
4 Keep up your motivation.
5 Adopt good habits both personally and health wise.
Go ahead and try and see how they work for you. This is the time to stretch and grow yourself. It's the best journey of self discovery.

When you really think about it it's instinctive for us as humans to show up as our true authentic self. One of my inspirations Bren'e Brown says "Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we are supposed to be and embracing who we are." So true right? Sometimes we get caught up in pleasing others that we loose sight of our Authentic self, and the others we are trying to help also don't have connection to their true self either. The key to finding your Authentic self is nurturing your own physical well being. If you are not doing this you will never find true happiness.

Your authentic self will not show through if you don't sleep enough or your not feeling well. If your not feeling well your mind won't either. So treat your body with some love will ya and make it a priority. You will start to see amazing things unfold in your life and the happiness you are looking for will begin to show.

Give yourself some space! Finding your Authentic self requires a  lot of focusing inwards towards yourself. This sounds easy but for some can be really hard. Especially if you are someone who has spent a lot of time focusing on others before your self. So it's better to distance yourself from people who break down your authentic self and fill you with negative thought.

So I want to remind you to make time for yourself and see all the possibilities that are right there in front of you. Trial and error is the key, try on different selves and see how they fit and what feels comfortable and just be the best you that you can be ..

Kristi Xx

THE ONE THING THAT REALLY HELPS SELF CONFIDENCE.

The one thing today so many women lack is confidence in themselves! Yep I put my hand up to that one, but after making changes to the way I look at myself my self confidence has sky rocketed. Self confidence is our own belief and trust in our abilities, trustworthiness,powers and reliability. A self confident person does not doubt themselves, without sounding cooky or arrogant. It's just as simple as that.  But this one idea will help you boost your confidence and stand proud of your self, that is GET TO KNOW YOURSELF. Yes take the time to look at who you are,and get to know you on a more personal level. 

Getting to know yourself means knowing your own strengths and weaknesses. your dreams and desires, and passions and your fears. More importantly knowing your purpose in life. When we get to know our self we learn our values and strengths, things that we excel in and really feel good about. This is the sure way to being happy and living a life we love. So many women just think they have to settle for what is because of lack of not knowing who they truly are and their capabilities.

HOW WOULD YOU DESCRIBE YOURSELF. 
Ask your self this question. This is a great starting point to getting to know you,. I'll start it off. I would describe myself as :
- Passionate about my work.
- ambitious and driven.
- I'm a people person.
- A natural leader and communicator.
Now I want you to do the same. I would love it if you would describe yourself in the comments below. I would love to get to know YOU a little better.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO FIND YOURSELF.
Finding you is an experience that is hard to describe. It's enlightening and the feeling of becoming self -efficient and doing things for your self is like a feeling of freedom. A feeling that you believe you can do and achieve anything. When we don't know who we are it's something that becomes very hard to ignore and the curiosity becomes a very strong force. As women I think it's so important that we know who we are to see our own strength and place in this world. Click the link below to grab my freebie How to change your mindset and achieve your dreams. I promise it's good!

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THIS ONE IS FOR THE HATERS..

Have you ever experienced people who just don't get what you do?  Or just think your braking up the wrong tree. I think we all come across that In our life at some point or another. But the question is how are you going to handle it? The way I figure is we have two options. We can give in to the haters or stay focused on our own dreams and  happiness and keep going for gold! Let yourself accept the haters and people who judge you. Then keep doing what lights you up.  You have something to offer the world that only you have my friend.

Up until a few years ago, I would have been devastated to know I had haters out there. It would have crushed me to the point of giving up whatever I was doing. No matter how passionate I was or how much I loved it. But after making mindset changes I'm more determined now to do what I love and just be happy. I encourage you to look closely at your mindset and ask yourself, is this benefiting me or my dream. Is this empowering me to move forward.


BODY IMAGE.
Now this is a subject to talk about for days. Body image was so very important to me, I was so engrossed in trying to have the perfect image. Until I realized that ..I was perfect just the way I am. And you are too! I want you to say it with me, ready 1 2 3  I AM PERFECT.  There is so much criticism out there concerning the way a women's body looks. Those people are not looking into the eyes. The eyes are the window to the soul. when they sparkle and light up,so does our bodies. Own how beautiful you really are. Let the confidence and strength just shine through. Focus on the people who you inspire and motivate, while it's still important to accept the people who judge. Worrying or stressing about it will take up space in your mind that should be filled with the plan to live the life you love.

YOUR BELIEFS.
Never be afraid to voice what you believe in, but never raking down what someone else might believe in. We are individuals with the right to our own belief and opinion. As humans this is a part of our nature. Someone else having a different view of a point you are making. If what we believe is not hurting anyone and still showing compassion and kindness why can't we have our beliefs. It happens in our families, someone not believing in a way you would go about doing something.

Don't fear the haters, accept that and never loose site of the path you are on. as they say the world would be a dull place if we were all the same. We need some variety and spice in the human race don't you think?
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READ HERE TO BECOME A BETTER WRITER.. AND FIND PEACE.

Calling all my writer friends. I'm so passionate about my writing. Writing changed my life in so many wonderful ways. Been such an introvert I kept so much to myself, now being both an introvert and extrovert writing has steered me into a whole new way I see myself. I faced a lot of my fears to stop holding myself back from chasing my dream. I still have fear, A LOT. But that fear is my friend now and keeps me focused on what the bigger picture is. If you love writing I'm here to help ya my friend with ways that have helped me continue to hone the craft of writing.

GET CLEAR BEFORE YOU SIT DOWN AND WRITE.
This is really helpful tip. Be clear , ask yourself questions about why you are writing and what you want to write about. I find writing down what the message is I want to put forward and who i it going out to. This is a great foundation for putting together the topic and outcome of what you are writing.

TEAR DOWN THE PIECES.
When you are clear on what you are writing, tear down the story into strips of the most important points of value. When you do this you are making sure you tell all of your story and not leaving out anything critical to your expressions. You are zooming in on your feelings and looking deep within the surface.

ASK YOURSELF WHAT WOULD MY IDOL WRITE..
I do this all the time!. Sometimes when I'm sitting there with wanting to write something but can't put into the write words, I ask myself how would my inspiration write this?  I will go back and look at ways they have expressed themselves in their writing. But never copy!! The point is to observe how they express their message out into the world.

WRITE FROM YOUR HAPPY PLACE. 
To get the full benefits of how writing can help you emotionally and physically. Always write from a place where you feel happy. Never write from a place of anger or frustration. If what you are writing brings some sadness for you, writing from a place of being happy will bring more clarity over your objective. Coming from the heart is the purist and authentic way to write.

END ON A STRONG NOTE.
This is a must! finishing strong will help put into perspective your own reasons for wriring what you have written. A time to heal if that is what you need. Look at it like a chapter in a book, one door closing and another door is open.

Writing has so many incredible facets. Have you tried writing? Give it a go and tell me what you think I would love to hear from you. Click the link below and grab my free guide to how I found joy again after my journey with infertility. Until next time

Kristi Xx

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ANXIETY PROBLEM ? THIS ONE THING WILL HELP FIX IT..

Anxiety..what is it really?

It is an intense, excessive and persistent worry or fear about everyday situations. A fast heart rate, sweaty palms and rapid breathing may occur when feeling anxiety. Yes I have experienced this and I have found ONE thing that really helped me stay in control with my feelings. MEDITATION.  Now I know some of you may laugh at this, but hear me out.

Up until about four years ago, I was a walking nightmare! Everything would make me anxious and stressed. I would get nervous about having to do anything that involved a lot of people (Different story now) But I still feel like this sometimes and then my amazing husband reminds me of what I have to do. MEDITATE.  Meditation is the quieting and stillness of the mind. The oneness we have with our breath. Let'a face it life is pretty crazy for this generation, fast paced and non stop yeah?  Enter the beauty of meditation...

Anybody can meditate, there is no right or wrong way or time frame for which to do. As long as you can feel your breath and your chest rise and fall with each breath, you are meditating my friend. Now I want to walk you through a meditation process. How does that sound? Let's begin..
- Find a quiet comfortable place you can sit and relax.
- Let your body feel like jelly, nice and loose then close your eyes and begin to feel your breath.
- really feel each inhale and exhale of the breath
-  With each breath out feel the tension, anxiety and stress just melt away. Imagine it flowing straight out of your body.
- Anything that pops into your mind see it as clouds rolling by, acknowledge them and let them go like clouds floating by.

Now is this simple, no of course not if you have never done it before or have trouble slowing your mind down. But every time you do it it becomes easier and feels so dang good TRUST ME. I learned to have so much more control over my mind. Just to clear it up some people think you need to meditate for an hour or more every day. No no no, you do what you can. Even if it is just 5 minutes to close your eyes and just breathe, that's great! and if you choose you can gradually do more as you get more comfortable sitting with yourself and building a strong bond with your mind and body.

So are you going to give it a try? Send me an Email and let me know. If you have any questions I would love to hear form you and I would love to help. Send me an Email and don't forget to subscribe free to receive weekly inspiration straight from me to you (link below)

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HOW INFERTILITY FEELS.

Infertility, does the pain ever go away,. No it never completely goes away, infertility alters the course of your life. But if you don't do what you can to find a way to feel joy again, before you realize you miss out on all the happy times that come into your life.  I'm digging deep and sharing what my infertility journey was like for me.

I can remember so clearly when I found out I was never going to be able to experience the joy of carrying a baby and giving birth. I had an idea of what was coming, having Turner Syndrome it was a classic feature. But I wanted to find out from the Doctors. So off I went and had all the tests and it was confirmed, the chances of me ever falling pregnant were very low. I remember walking out that day feeling crushed and brokenhearted. I never really knew anyone that had faced this kind of Infertility so i didn't know how common it was. It really felt isolating and scary.

INFERTILITY FELT LIKE BEING OUT OF CONTROL. 
Being a Mummy was a huge part of my dream since I was really young. I loved kids and knew I would make a great Mum. Having a family with my soul mate was part of my life plan. But as I found this can change so very quickly with no control. I am such a plan follower, I feel centered when I plan for what is coming next and prepare for it. But this was something I had no control over and could not change. It was set in stone.

Even though I had done research and knew what coming, I was still not prepared when the storm actually hit. I was told by the doctor that IVF was an option to try but the success rate was not very good at all. Even knowing this and talking with my Husband I was determined to give it a try. But again It was out of my control, after many cycles we were still unsuccessful. We knew it was time to close that chapter and try to move on. This was an emotional roller coaster, I couldn't think of not keep trying but my body felt so exhausted after everything.

INFERTILITY AND THE SENSE OF HOPELESSNESS AND NOONE UNDERSGTANDS WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.
This feeling is so overwhelming, why me? Why won't my body do this one thing my Husband and I want so badly. I wanted so much to give this to him. Know that feeling too? The constant sense of hopelessness and worthless which lead to depression and the feeling of constant ANGER, and nobody understands. But this wasn't true. so many other women go through the same heartbreaking grieving process as I did. I was not alone.

THE FEELING THAT EVERYONE AROUND ME SEAMED TO BE GETTING PREGNANT. 
Looking back now this was not true, but it sure felt like it my mind. That knawing feeling feeling being on Facebook seeing birth photos of new born babies. Even though we were struggling with Infertility I felt a sense of happiness. To me this was important as it was accepting that ot wasn't anyone's fault of my struggle and they shouldn't be punished with my feeling of anger. they deserved to be happy. I took this as a healing process for me, a chance to feel joy again. A chance to release the dark cloud above.

So know my friend that you are not alone, and there is no rule book when it comes to our feelings and emotions. I send you the biggest hug from me to you anmd hope I can help your journey be more bearable. Grab my free guide to my journey and how I found joy again, share with friends who might be going through the same thing. :Let's help each other.

Kristi Xx

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SETTING GOALS WITH THIS 3 STEP PROCESS.

Setting goals can be daunting and even scary. I know they were for me. I was terrified of setting myself goals because I was stuck in the mindset that I would never achieve them. But with a lot of work on my own personal growth I unraveled what was holding me back. If you follow this three step process I promise you will find results in achieving what your passionate about. Lets dive in..

YOU MUST HAVE A SPECIFIC GOAL.
The important thing to remember when you are setting a goal for yourself is to have a clear vision of what you are trying to achieve and the goals it will take to get there. I found that journaling really helped me have a clear perspective. I could look at it every day and feel energized. It's also important to have a clear vision of what you want your dream to look like. When you have that clear vision it becomes easy to navigate the goals you need to set. 

YOU MUST HAVE A PLAN TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS. 
Once you have your goals set it's time to put a plan into place. A plan that includes time frames on achieving each goal, this will help keep your self accountable for staying on path to achieving your own greatness. A key point when putting your plan together is make sure that the goals are attainable in the time frame you have set. 

YOU MUST THINK ABOUT YOUR GOALS EVERY DAY.
This is an absolute must! To stay motivated and in the present moment you need to have time every day to think about your goals. Check in with yourself and see if maybe you need to make any changes. 
- How are your goals progressing?
- Is the plan you have working out as it should?
- Last but certainly not least. Think about them with excitement and determination. 

When you have a plan like this in place you really can't go wrong. Yes there will be days when nothing feels like it is going right. But don't give up because the time will come when everything starts going right. Have patience with you and the plan. Remember Success does not happen overnight. I would love for you to share with me how you went following these steps to setting goals. Send me an Email lets connect.

Kristi Xx